I like this podcast but I need everyone to know that you absolutely SHOULD NOT remove the lid from your toilet and you should put the lid down before you flush every time. Otherwise you’re spraying fecal matter or urine all over your bathroom.

Really enjoyed this latest Nadira and Sam ep.

Kind, funny, clear advice

Ashley C. Ford is fantastic! I hope her guest-host role expands if that’s something she’s interested in doing

Ashley, as a guest host, is so much better at the basic job description of giving advice than Jenée, it’s nuts. Less judgmental, actually catches the details shared in the letter, WAY less holier than thou about her own choices and lifestyle, more empathetic. Jenée is sometimes very funny but mostly I find her mean. I love Ashley and would be thrilled if she became permanent Prudie.

Can’t stop listening— Jenee has great perspectives and guests!

There could be a little less idle chit-chat and more discussing questions but not bad over all.

This chick is out here stereotyping every conservative and trying to justify her hatred for them. How hasn’t she died here hair crazy colors yet.

Why is she so bad at her job? And so MEAN and snarky to the LW???? come on! go fine smth better to do, people!

OMG. Your advice was so a**-backwards I don’t even know where to start. If someone insults someone in their language or another that feeling is going to come across in the way they interact with them in other ways. I can guarantee that his daughter felt something. And guess what? His responsibility is to protect his daughter. And he did. His main responsibility is to provide his daughter a safe home environment where people who make fun of her are not allowed. And he did that. He should be praised. The wife also needs to understand that her husband needs to prioritize his daughter and she shouldn’t get involved.

Letter writers provide details to get the most of the advice they are asking for, and somehow the host and guests are terrible at retaining these details. This regularly rockets the advice off in a wildly wrong direction. With Orna as the guest they turn on the birthday letter writer about being materialistic/“wanting things” when she clearly mentions small parties, a breakfast and a hike, as a way of feeling thought-of and acknowledged for her birthday. This is so common with this show and it’s so annoying.

Stop it!!! Vocal fry must end!!!

Hearing Kiese Laymon solve problems? It does not get better.

Really poor analysis and advice. Not sure why anyone would want her take on things.

Too critical of letter writers. Too much smugness, too little compassion.

I hope no one actually follows this advice. Yes it’s entertaining but sound and beneficial? Definitely not. Some people write in w serious issues that could benefit from some actual counseling. Not pat answers with straight lady bias and major gaps in understanding. There’s a lot of criticism of the women who “don’t own up” and are “hiding things” in their requests for advice. It feels cold and catty. How about some actual compassion and nuance? Hmmm maybe next time…

The advice always finds a way to blame the letter writer no matter how illogical

Telling a person that’s being stalked at work to “not bring it to HR because they may think you’re part of the drama” and then suggesting that they QUIT their job instead is a wild take. The host is literally advocating to accept abuse and potentially forgo your own stability in order to not rock the boat with someone that can’t behave themselves in the workplace. Horrible advice.

Love the great advice, always an interesting listen. Not psyched to hear political adverts from Big Oil.

Yikes on the anti-police rhetoric. Super judgmental viewpoints except on what is clearly important to her, and her very like-minded guests. Doesn’t seem able to think critically and if your opinion is different, you are wrong/ shamed. Very bizarre option for someone giving advice.

Normally I love this podcast but occasionally the quality of the guest’s sound is so off that it’s hard to hear and understand. Please, dear Prudence, don’t drop a show if the guest sounds like they are in a tin can.

The advice is always very one sided. I joined slate plus just for this podcast as I had heard it was great for advice. I have been very disappointed. I understand wanting to be PC but the advice Prudie gives is so one sided and she seems edited in her responses so that she won’t get canceled. Her condescending attitude and holier than thou approach to her letter writers has become increasingly unappealing. It would do her well to read some real books, educate herself a bit better, and try having a little empathy for people. Just because someone doesn’t have the same exact views as you doesn’t mean they’re a bad person. And that’s the way the show comes off.

I have unsolicited advice for bird lady. Ask him to go with you to carry equipment.

I love the show, and I have been looking forward to it every week for years!

She’s so good at giving advice! I always look forward to hearing her take.

If you’re looking for depth, this isn’t the podcast for you

I really wanted to like this podcast but I feel like the advice is very privileged and skewed. The host lacks empathy and is very judgmental of the letter writers and doesn’t provide practical advice.

Did this come up on my podcast list? Didn’t like this one- not clever, her advice is incredibly limited like she doesn’t have much life experience, or unique perspectives either. She jumps to weird conclusions and it’s not pleasant listening to her voice.

I just listened to two episodes - one about a girlfriend who wants her boyfriend to post photos of her on social media and a sister who has been asked to take down a wedding photo at her own house because it might offend her brother’s fiancé. In both cases - such unwise advice. And also - unkind to the people involved. This one is not for me.

If you don’t have kids and don’t want them this is not the podcast. Terrible advice about “changing your mind” and saying that you should change your whole life around other’s kids is very gross and tiring. Women are more than kids but they don’t get that and don’t give rational advice like “get a babysitter” or “tell your husband to actually be a parent.”

I wanted to love this, but I found that the advice was, unfortunately, quite bad.

Hello. Sometimes it feels like you are not looking at the case from all angles; it feels like you are blurting out the first idea that comes to your mind. When people write in, you gotta consider that they are going to take what you say to heart. There is an answer one gives when a question is sprung on them out of nowhere but in your case, u get so much time to consider all options, and consider the possibilities.

Prudence your valley girl/vocal fry is incredibly annoying. I recognize it’s also very contagious so if your friends speak with this affectation can be difficult to overcome. Please see a speech therapist before it impacts your professional life.

I could talk about each letter forever with my friends and family.

I have enjoyed listening to many of the episodes, and I do find it entertaining! However, I often feel like the host lacks compassion for the people writing in and almost shames them. Also, she often takes very large leaps as to what the letter writer’s problem actually is (when she needs more details to flesh it out). I would love to listen to future episodes where she tries to be more thoughtful.

I just started listening today. I love the discussion and advice about each situation. I also appreciate that I always get a few laughs from each episode.

Whether it’s the host who pronounces the “n” in “columnist” or the illiterate letter readers who are saying half of these words for the first time (again, incorrectly), I can’t handle how dumb everyone is. Also that the gist and all of her guests make everything about race and being black, even when that’s not the topic or a thing the letter writer has mentioned.

This podcast reminds me of a Reddit board. A great place to get in-depth answer to a question, but the advice will be super biased with a high chance of being wrong. So as long as someone listens to the advice as they would an open forum of non-experts on a subject, it’s well-produced and entertaining

Prudence gives great advice and the questions are always interesting.

The host seems to give bad advice, that often doesn’t consider all sides and different life experiences than hers. The guests often save the day for me, as they tend to give much more nuance and well rounded thought

Love to hear the advice and apply or just observe. Great job!

I’m a new follower Dear Prudence. I didn’t know about the column, but I found this show and I listen weekly (even going back to listen to old podcasts). This podcast has been a great find for me. It’s funny. I learn a lot about engaging with people. It’s refreshing (possibly because I listen to a lot of true crime/serial killer podcasts). It’s great timing/length, so good for my Dallas (long) commute to work.

Currently binging the episodes from current to past. Eye opening and provides a perspective to issues that I wouldn’t think prior. Jenée is down to earth and always seems to surprise me (in a good way!) how to approach situations. Highly recommend! Oh! And the guests are great too!

I love advice columns and podcasts, they're entertaining and you learn a lot. I've given this a shot but the host is cringe and the advice is unkind - it's just a no for me. She sounds like a very entitled person. Companies need to catch up to the times we are in today and choose the person who is the voice of your brand accordingly -- aka kinder, thoughtful responses from those that have lived in the real world around all kinds of different people and situations. For example, the host shared a story about how she was so afraid of what her neighbors would think that she didn't help her black neighbors by bringing in their packages while they were away (meanwhile she said they're her only black neighbors so any normal person must know their living situation is already so challenging and NOT easy to ask a white neighbor for help). She just didn't do it! And then avoided the neighbor when they got back! Who does that? This is not a person I could get advice from. Is there nepotism involved? Why is she the host y'all. ....

First of all, I’m shocked that a so called “expert” on social interactions would describe herself as a “gossip”. To me, talking about anyone maliciously behind their back is small and close-minded, and just plain mean. It’s something that most of us did in high school and hopefully grew out of. Even if the person you’re gossiping about is someone you don’t like or has done something to hurt you, they’re still a or person. There are good and bad parts to them, as there are to every single one of us, and besides that, who are you to judge their pain or suffering? Any time I’m with someone and they are talking maliciously about another person, it says more to me about the gossiper than the gosipee (if that’s a word 😆). And sometimes the advice is just BAD! For example - the neighbor that comes over to talk when the woman is outside in her garden because she saved her life. There are CERTAINLY other choices besides icing her out like a child, or pretending to be her friend. Why not make it about something besides her? Maybe tell her that your yard is your space to mentally rest, unwind, and be alone with your thoughts, and you appreciate the quiet while you’re out there. That way it doesn’t become personal, and you’ve set your boundary. As you and everyone of us have a right to do. If she still takes offense, at that point it’s not your problem.

Just listened to an episode where she ignored the readers comment that her step kids terrorized her cats. She just brushed over it and said she wanted to know more but the kids were probably just being kids. I also saw online a while ago that when a writer complained about kids approaching their traumatized dog and parents not stepping in, she was just focused on the letter writer not liking kids, not realizing that a dog biting a kid could mean that the dog has to be put down. I think maybe she has never had animals, but should understand that they play a huge role in people’s lives.

I love Jenée’s kind and sunny disposition, she always has an element of hope in her responses :)

It always takes me some time to adjust to a new advice columnist, but I love Jenee Desmond Harris! She’s super smart and witty. Her advice is actionable and practical. I am a huge Danny M. Lavery fan as well, and Desmond Harris has really made the Dear Prudie role into her own.

So bummed to hear the response on the March 3 episode concerning the question around factory farming. Prudence makes the comment that factory farming is not that big of a deal. Even if it’s not your cause, being educated enough to know that it is a big deal for so many reasons, climate issues among the most pressing should be a priority to people who see themselves as advice givers. Would have loved a spin that discussed how to educate family and friends on this issue. But also to just be completely flippant of any concern to say it’s not a big deal also doesn’t sit well for an advice giving resource. Very sad to hear this and won’t be listening again.

I’m listening to your episode from 2/17/23 and hearing your recommendations to the (likely) young woman asking for support about her 1/2 brother who molested her whom her mother denies the seriousness. Your suggestions to seek support from friends, their parents, other family members and school counselor were great but you failed to state clearly to her that this behavior is illegal, immoral and evidently he has some some type of other horrible things. People do not sexually abuse once; making meaning by protecting others and finding validation regarding the seriousness of this situation could make the writer realize she should have been treated with compassion and respect. Police may not be your favorite people, nor my own based upon how they handled my assault, nonetheless the man now has a felony. This may have been mentioned previously but I’m too revved up read it.